I frequently encounter the answer to this question on sites of conjugal agencies. And always the reason for which the Russian women are interested in searches of foreign husbands, are completely various. In my opinion there can not be, an unequivocal answer, because the reasons which have induced the Russian women in increasing frequency to address to the international conjugal agencies and services of the Internet, very deeply and its roots begin in the early 20th century. I shall try to explain the myriad of reasons.
But, let's look, at what the modern Russian women represents, which begins their search of a life companion abroad. Most have a higher education and they are typically between 25 to 35 years of age. Many of them have never been married, or by 30-35 are already divorced and have 1 child. They are very beautiful, have a good job, own their apartment or a car, that in Russia, where there is no concept of CREDIT, it is considered a very large achievement. Some of my girlfriends work in the field of advertising, marketing, healthcare (doctors) and Finance (accountants). Others are teachers and hair dressers. My girlfriends are sociable, with a good sense of humor, are kind and are always ready to reach to the aid of other people. Besides, all of them are magnificent homemakers, in which they can and love to prepare meals and can sew or knit. They put on make-up with taste, and they look very lovely and manicured. I am sure, opinion has it that only ugly and poor Russian women search for a partner abroad. On the contrary, frequently it is just the opposite. You might ask; why such clever, well educated and beautiful women can not find a companion for life in Russia? What is the problem? The problem in my opinion, are the Russian men and the demographic situation, which has developed in Russia. I shall try to explain.
1. The men in Russia catastrophically do not suffice. To understand why many wonderful Russian women do not want to create family with them, it is necessary to recall history. As far as I can judge, studying the historical literature, in the beginning of the 20th century, before the October Revolution, it was successful for young girls and women to live in marriage and raise children in a proper home environment. What changed after the revolution? There began of a turn of reprisals, when the whole estates of men (officers, aristocrats, scientific, doctors and businessmen) were confiscated and the men were either executed, or banished and jailed in Siberia. To authority, came the people from the lowest layers of society, the workers and peasants. The religion was announced “atheism for the people? Many churches were destroyed, and with them moral values. A beginning of drunkenness and anarchy emerged.
The Civil war, which lasted 2 years, many Russian men were lost. After this war, began 30 years of hunger, when whole families died from famine. In these 30 years many families remained without support as many men had been lost. The women raised the children alone. Then in 1941 the WWII began which killed more than 20 millions men and women. The majority of loses were, certainly, men (soldiers and officers). There was not a family in Russia, in which a father, son or brother would not be lost. A whole generation of children grew up without fathers and therefore without proper male guidance. The men in the country began to lack moral character. A demographic imbalance took place after WWII. Not only numerically did women begin to prevail in the country, but also at a genetic level they became stronger and hardier both morally, and physically. War strengthened them! The people at that time did not suspect that the echoes of that war would have such long term effect in Russia. Now, in the 21st century, the women still recollect that war, and the loss of many, many men. Immediately proceeding the Stalin reprisals, not one thousand human lives were lost due to wars. Nor shall I stop on the consequences of wars in Vietnam and Afghanistan. I want only to add, that all this time, from the beginning of the 20th century and until now, large numbers of men have perished.
2. Change of roles in family After disorder of the Soviet Union, when all the country was plunged into poverty and chaos, and the economy is destroyed, the Russian men who have been brought up by the women, these mommies boys, simply were frightened of changes in the political and economic situation. They were frightened that their image of life has changed, that the state will not provide them either apartment, or car, as it was in with communism, and it was necessary to go and earn money by working with the mind and wit. Many men simply have run into depression, preferring to leave reality, and drinking vodka and wine. Since many men do not have much money, they have turned to making MOONSHINE, at home. So men always had some quantity of liquor in the house. Of course they preferred to complain about the government, the bad economy, on the country and their unfortunate destiny, to drink vodka and wait until all will be adjusted so somebody will take care of them and their families. As a result the women must think how to feed and clothe the family. They have found many ways to earn money in the new capitalist world. The women have engaged in sale and purchase of products of food and clothing. Almost everything, so-called "shuttles", were the woman. The doctors, musicians and teachers have found additional ways of making money. The women "turned", as they could to ensure normal life to the children and husbands. To that to their surprise, this strong generation of the women that has appeared has resulted in a change of roles in the family. The women have become the major wage earner of the family.
3. The majority of Russian men are weak and dependent The man in many families plays a minor role, as he can not even take care of himself, can not earn enough money to provide for the family. So the mums of the boys are strong and care for them so much that by the time they are 18-20 years old are unable to prepare a meal for themselves, wash clothes or clean the room. In life these young men are not at all adapted to independent life. This has been handed down from wife to wife, for several generations. Certainly, each mother hopes, that the wife will care for her child better than she did. Thus, the average age of men entering their first marriage is 20-24. The brides are, as a rule, 18-20.
4. Economic problems of the family I shall not describe in detail, with what difficulties the young family faces, in which the husband constantly requires (demands) "parental" attention and care from the young wife, while one or both spouses study in a University. These young couples, basically live, at the expense of their parents, as it is impossible to live on the grant in Russia. Thus, a vast number of families break up even before graduation and have usually had at least one child by the time they divorce. The men after the divorce quickly find themselves another wife, as the choice of young beautiful women in Russia is simply huge! On the other side of the coin, the woman, especially if she has 1-2 children; finding a worthy partner is a very large problem. The Russian men, many of which can not even take care of themselves, do not wish to take the responsibility for another man’s child. Therefore, for the woman with children, even if she is young and beautiful and has a good education and job, the chances of successfully living in a marriage are sharply reduced. Besides the women understand, that even in case of a marriage with a good and moral Russian man, most all of them are the same. The men consider it beneath them to help their wives with the housework and raising the children. If they have brought any money in to the house, they consider their duties to the family complete and spend each evening, lying on a sofa, not giving any attention to the wife and children. So, having considered all these factors, marriage with the Russian man, and not many worthy candidates for husbands among them, is not very promising. Intellectually the woman makes a decision to remain her whole life without a family, or to find the companion of her life in another country.
5. Access to the Internet and opening of the Russian borders to foreigners Due to the political changes in Russia, Russian women have the opportunity to leave the limits of Russia. Also, it has become very simple for the foreign man to come to the country on a tourist visa. The access to the Internet, in turn, has helped the women to receive much more information on life abroad and through sites of conjugal agencies to get acquainted with European and American men. For the first time women could compare Russian and foreign men, their moral and family values. So, many women have made a conclusion that most foreign men are not so strongly dependent upon women; they are more independent and can appreciate female beauty and attention. For modern western men, women are not simple slaves or maids, but a friend, partner and companion. Independence and family values of western men, their attitude toward their wives, and the economic stability of western countries, attracts the Russian women. In the conclusion, the Russian women are unique essences. They put family above all else. They are always ready to give up the most brilliant career to be with the husband and children. If you will give her a little attention, love and care; if you will show her that you appreciate her as the wife and mother at home; will admire her beauty and mind, she will be there for you until the end of time. This grateful woman will make you 100 times happier, if you treat her with diligence and love. I wish for you to meet YOUR perfect Russian girl that eventually becomes your cherished wife and partner, in which your life will be filled with love and happiness!
Good luck to you!
Julia Anderson
Julia Anderson is the author of the article "Why Russian women search for the life companion abroad? " She is a Russian lady which has been happy married an American man. Julia is an owner of marriage agency 'Russian-Fiancee". Visit her site http://www.russian-fiancee.com to find out how you can meet,marry and bring a Russian lady to the USA
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